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The one secret that changed the way I think about change.


We’ve all tried to make a change at some point in our lives. Whether it is something small like exercising as your new years resolution or learning a new habit.

Change is hard!!

But why is it so hard and why does everybody struggle with it? This is a question I asked myself and could never really figure out. I would start doing something I knew I should be doing, but then not too long afterwards I would be right back where I started. Looking back going : “Come on man really thought you were going to do it this time, what happened?”

Now the first thing you need to make REAL change, is habits, but habits are a whole article on it’s own and something we’ll talk about here later (don’t worry I got your back). The second thing is something much simpler. Something that is stopping you that you didn’t even know about.


Neuro ma what tides?? Yeah I know really “sciency” weird stuff just makes you go “Oh boy, here it comes”.

But stop and listen. This will make a difference and I’m going to break it down really simple. If I can understand this, you definitely can too. I already know I’m an average Joe just like you.

So where did neuropeptides start? I first heard about these things in an interview Marie Forleo  (I swear my wife follows her not me) did with Todd Herman. Todd Herman is a performance coach who “helps Olympians, Billionaires and Teams break-through to new levels of performance to quote from his website. He values privacy before anything else, so he doesn’t have a list of “I worked with…….” to try and impress you. Believe me, this guy doesn’t need it.

In this interview they talk about the biology of change. What the hell does change have to do with biology? These people are going to try and sell some whooohooo science right here was my first thought. But I kept on listening….

Todd explained that every time you try to break an old habit, learn a new skill or try to improve yourself there is a biological process going on, which most people would almost call an emotional part that is going on. It’s a misunderstanding of this part that trips people up and prevents them from going on with the change. The 2013 Nobel prize in Physiology and Medicine  actually went to 3 scientists who figured out how our cells transfer cargo, as they call it, in the human body.

All that you really have to know is that your cells are constantly receiving information and they are constantly replicating themselves.

When you start breaking an old habit or learning a new skill you are actually sending some positive emotions through your body, which comes in the form of hormones. Dopamine and serotonin, being the two main ones. Now if your cells are used to constantly being bombarded with cortisol (also known as the stress hormone) ,which actually increases your blood sugar and supresses the immune system, and then suddenly you start giving them some dopamine, they’re not used to it. So your cells actually have to change, their receptor sites have to change to accept this new information and they have to vibrate at a different frequency and it is this vibration that gets people. This is what causes self-sabotage and resistance in most people. Because most people interpret this as “This doesn’t feel good”, “It doesn’t feel right to me” they make up their own emotional story to explain what they are feeling.

This is the tipping point. I don’t know if you have ever heard the old saying that the greatest breakthroughs happen when you just want to quit. I always think of that age old picture of the two guys digging for the pile of diamonds and the one quits just before he gets there, while the other one is still going at it furiously.

Neuropeptides might be stopping you just before you reach your goals

Turns out cheesy pictures actually have some truth in them.

If you quit just before your breakthrough, you go back to giving your body what it’s used to getting. You go back to your comfort zone and remember a comfort zone doesn’t always have to be comfortable. You go back to that “Ah this is what I’m used to, this doesn’t challenge me, this is nice and safe”

However if you just push through, if you just keep on doing it, your cells actually change. They actually start vibrating at a different frequency and they become used to getting the good stuff. Your cells start sending out signals saying: “Screw that I don’t want any more of that cortisol stuff, give me the dopamine and serotonin!!”

You start to actually want to do the stuff that makes you feel better and here comes the kicker…. When you go back to your old habits. When you start doing the stuff that gives you the cortisol, your cells won’t be vibrating at that frequency anymore and you will get that same weird feeling, that: “Oh something doesn’t feel right” and you will go out there and give your body what it wants.

Just knowing this explains so much!! Why sometimes, even though you are so motivated to do something, you quit. Why you get that uneasy feeling when you are doing something new, even if you know it’s good for you.

If you just keep on doing it, you’ll break through and you will get to your pot of diamonds.

What do I do with all of this?

Now you know what to expect!!!

You are not going to be as positive as day one for ever. You are going to hit that wall where you want to quit and just go jump back into your comfort zone, pull the covers over your head and go “Mmmmmm this is nice and comfy.”

But now you know better!! Now when you quit and when you go back you actually know what you are doing. Now you can’t use that nice excuse of “Oh it didn’t feel right” anymore.

You have to take responsibility for your choice now.

That one stings I know. I also didn’t enjoy it when I first realised it. Learning this took away one of my go to excuses. Something I used to tell myself in my head over and over again. “Oh don’t worry, that just wasn’t right for you. You did the right thing by quitting.”

This is a game changer. Just knowing this will change the way you look at any new challenge next time you start. You will be waiting for the resistance, you will know it is coming and when it hits….. You’ll just smile and say: “Finally, I’ve been waiting for you.”

If you are not a fan of lots of words watch this short video, it pretty much explains exactly what I am talking about here in a very nice creative way: (It’s a bit old and cheesy, I know, but it really does a great job of explaining how peptides work)