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This article is a little bit different than all the other ones. In this one I’m not sharing what I’ve learned through reading a bunch of scientific studies, but rather something personal. I used to worry a lot about what other people think about me. I would get consumed by it and play lots of different variations out in my head, this would take up hours in my day.
Eventually, I came to the realizations I share below. These are what made the change for me. They switched off that “Oh what are they thinking?” switch in my head and I’m sure they can work for you as well.
Had it not been for this, I would probably never have started writing these articles. Putting myself out there would have been my worst nightmare.
But lets start at the beginning.
It all started in High School, as I’m sure it does for most of us. High School is a period in your life where you are almost solely preoccupied with what other people think about you. “What’s cool?”, “What do they think about my hair?”, “What do they think about my clothing?”, “Oh, I hope they like me.”.
What makes it comical, when you look back, is that the cool kids were the ones that acted like they didn’t care about what other people thought. The ones that just did what they wanted. Oh how we wished we could have been like them.
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Does it feel like bad things always happen to you? Like there is always something bad out there just waiting to happen to you? Your spouse is going to cheat on you, or the business deal is going to go south and you are just waiting for it to happen…..
Don’t worry, I’m exactly the same.
It’s actually completely natural to always be looking out for the bad in life. It’s part of your self protective nature. As hunter gatherers we were always scanning the horizon for approaching danger and getting ready to react to this danger. Therefore we are predisposed to look for negative experiences in stead of positive experiences.
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So where did this whole article on smiling start? Funny story……
I have this friend who is one of those people. You know the ones, they are super popular, easy to talk to and everyone wants to be around them. This guy just seems to cruise through life and have a ball doing it. So I decided to ask him what his secret was. We discussed a lot of different things, but one thing that really surprised me was that he believed smiling was his secret weapon.
This sounded too simple to be true, so I decided to do some research. There are lots of studies out there that actually prove something as simple as smiling, will have a massive impact on your life.
So it’s the end of January and the year is in full swing. Doesn’t feel like the year is one month old, does it? We’re all back at work and going at our day to day lives at full speed. But I quickly wanted to check up on you.
How are you doing with those new year’s resolutions you made at the start of the year?
No seriously, think about it. How would your life be right now if you stuck to all your resolutions? What would your friends be saying and how would you be feeling?
We’ve all tried to make a change at some point in our lives. Whether it is something small like exercising as your new years resolution or learning a new habit.
Change is hard!!