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So why aren’t you successful yet?
We’ve all have lots of justifications:
- “I’m too busy right now.”
- “I don’t have enough money.”
- “I don’t have enough time.”
- “I’m in the wrong country.”
- “It’s too risky.”
- “I’m not experienced enough.”
- “I’m too old now.”
- “I’m too young.”
- “I’m not good enough.”
- “I could never do that.”
- “I’m not smart enough.”
- “I’m just going to fail.”
Most of the time these justifications aren’t the real reason you haven’t achieved what you want. They are just the stories you tell yourself, and if you tell a story for long enough, you’ll start believing it.
You create meaning out of whatever happens to you, and try to make sense out of it. All of these justifications are created by your mind to protect you.
As Tony Robbins says:
“Your brain is designed to help you survive, not make you happy. That’s your job!!”
These justifications don’t always have to be negative though. They can be things that seem positive:
- “I’m the only one that can do it.”
- “Nobody else can do it as good as I can.”
- “I have to do it all by myself.”
But what’s behind these justifications? What causes you to create these stories that you tell yourself…….
The answer is easy: fear—fear of change, fear of discomfort, fear the unknown,fear of success,- of failure, and other people’s opinions of you. There are so many fears that we all have to live with each and every day.
Marianne Williamson probably said it best:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?…Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you….,and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
What are the stories you are telling yourself?
And what would happen if you started telling yourself a new story:
- “I’m not good enough.” > “I’m not good enough yet, but I will grow and become the best.”
- “I could never do that.” > “I can’t do that now, but if I keep on trying, one day I will.”
- “I’m not smart enough.” > “I don’t know enough yet, there’s still more to learn out there.”
- “I’m just going to fail.” > “I might fail now, but from those failures I will learn and get stronger.”
And what would happen if you actually started believing that story after a while? If we can learn to believe that negative stories about ourselves, why can’t we also believe the positive ones?
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
What’s on the other side of fear?
The sooner you realise that your brain is designed to keep you safe, the sooner you will be set free to live the life that you truly want.
Your brain will always look for the worst case scenario or the “what if”. It’s your job to take all of this into consideration and act in spite of fear.